Personal Growth Can Have Its Costs
I wasn’t sure what I wanted to talk about this week until I saw a post from Mel Robbins online. If you’re not familiar with her she’s a lawyer, TV host, author, and motivational speaker.
Her post said, “8 important signs that mean you’re growing.” When I saw that, I knew exactly what I wanted to talk about.
I have been experiencing a lot of growth of late, and it has definitely been like throwing a rock in a lake and seeing the ripple effect. Some great, some not so great.
In this episode, I reflect on her 8 signs of growing and how they relate to my life. How growing has affected my relationships, the fear around growth and change for many of us, asking the question if it is also possible for someone to grow and not necessarily change and so much more. Come with me!
Not be missed take-ways:
1. If we don’t grow as a person, even later in life, we may as well hop into the casket and have them turn the crank six feet down.
2. Anyone can grow. Anyone can learn. This is a choice. To say we’re too old is a cop-out.
3. One of the worst things we can do is not grow as a human because we don’t want to rock the relationship boat. We cannot let the fear of causing waves prevent us from doing, learning, growing and being who we are.
4. It is hard when you no longer do the dance that others expect from you. It takes them off balance when they don’t know how to dance with you anymore.
5. Having the courage to seek, discover and accept your personal growth takes courage. It is not easy.
6. “The caterpillar never emerges from the chrysalis, but the butterfly does.” Martha Beck.
7. Is it possible for someone to grow and not necessarily change? I do believe the answer is a both/ AND. Our growth can cause us to change and then possibly cause a change in our relationship, AND I believe that we can grow and learn by changing certain behaviors without changing who we are as a person.
8. It’s never too late to be YOU. Unapologetically, unabashedly YOU!
And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…
1) Notice it/Name it/Reframe it!: In other words: Name what it is that is holding you back and then reframe it. For example: I’m afraid to grow. It could upset the people in my life. Reframe it!: Fear will keep me from being my authentic self. Growth can bring exciting opportunities and people who want to grow with me!
2) Think of one way you’d like to grow. Is it dealing with a relationship that isn’t serving you? Learning more about something? Trying a new activity?
3) Think of the first baby step you can take that will move you closer to it and do it! If you need help, contact me for a coaching session.
4) Please share with me what you do to inspire others!
Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!
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