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Do You Let Other People’s Expectations and Judgements Influence…

Do You Let Other People’s Expectations and Judgements Influence or Control Your Life?

How many of us lose a part of ourselves over time, either not realizing it, being in denial, or making the choice to allow it to happen because it was seemingly easier to go with the flow, or to appease a spouse or a parent or someone in our lives.

I went to see the Broadway touring show of Funny Girl recently, and so many feelings came to the surface, including the feeling of my younger self rumbling beneath. She was feeling a bit overlooked, and I also saw a part of myself in Fanny Brice; perhaps a part of me that has been ignored at times over the years. It was an emotional day.

Why are so many of us willing to give up our passions, our preferences, our dreams?? And why are we so afraid to ask for what we need and want?

In this episode I share a very personal story with you in hopes that if you can relate, perhaps it will help you take some kind of action on your path to finding peace in your heart, your mind and soul so that you can live life the way you wish to live it. No matter your age.

Not be missed take-ways…

—Whether it’s a spouse, partner, family member or friend; bottom line, if you can’t be who you authentically are, if you can’t express your wants, needs and desires with them for whatever reason, and feel safe in doing so, then that is too great a sacrifice. Full stop.

—Life is not a f*cking dress rehearsal. Daring to live a life we choose to live can be scary as f*ck. And you can do this.

—Remember that the #1 regret of the dying is not about what they did, but what they did not do.

—When you live on your path not worrying about external approval you begin attracting others in your life who welcome and want you to be you, and love you because of who you are, not despite who you are. People will appear out of nowhere who will listen, respect, admire and appreciate all that is you.

—Your desires matter. Don’t live the rest of your life settling because it’s comfortable. No matter what damn age you are, it’s never too late to live a fulfilling life asking for what you want..and getting it.

—Don’t we all deserve that? My wish for all who need to hear this, is to have the courage to live a life you dream of living. Even, and especially in later life. Life is short and getting shorter. Set the example for your kids and grandkids that it’s not only ok, but necessary to be true to yourself.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

It’s time to be honest with yourself. Are you in a situation of any kind where you’re miserable? Or let’s say you’re not miserable but just ‘comfortable’ in the mundane, tolerating mediocrity, a lack of passion, or missing what used to light you up?

If this hits home at all, ask yourself what you wish were different. If you mean it, most often to make a real change…not just a using bandaid for a temporary fix…we need support from either a counselor, coach or therapist. You are a priority. Ask for what you need. You’ve got this.

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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My Daughter Rachel Wright, A Non-Monogamous Polyamorous Psychotherapist: How…

My Daughter Rachel Wright

A Non-Monogamous, Polyamorous

Psychotherapist:


 How to Have Tough Conversations,

Societal ‘Norms’ and Non-Monogamy

Hello Loving Later Life Listeners! For those of you just joining for the first time, you are welcomed with open arms, and I hope you decide to visit on the regular, which is every other Monday!

Before I read you the bio of my most, most, most special guest, I have to tell you that this is the fastest hour you may ever experience. It is good till the last drop so you must hear every last word. And I’m not saying that because my more than special guest is my daughter!

In our conversation we talk about her 3-step creation to having challenging conversations and we role play one about wanting more sex in a relationship. You will learn about her non-monogamous/polyamorous life; what its like, and its challenges. We discuss shame, jealousy, societal ‘shoulds,’ affairs, and a tonnnn more juicy and important topics! Now for her bio:

Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT (she/her) is a distinguished psychotherapist and renowned speaker with expertise in modern relationships, mental health, and sex.

With a Master’s Degree in clinical psychology, Rachel has worked with thousands of clients worldwide, has a podcast, The Wright Conversations – about Sex, Relationships, & Mental Health with over 100K downloads. She has been featured in numerous media outlets, including The New York Times, PIX 11 (NYC), Women’s Health (online and print), Cosmopolitan (online and print), and NBC News Radio, among others.

And as she says in her bio, when she’s not working, you can probably find her in her pajamas, eating gluten-free food and belting out show tunes.

This episode will truly get you thinking.

Press play now, and let’s get started!

Not be missed take-ways:

I could have written a book on the amount of take-aways from our conversation. Here are 12 of them!

3 steps to an easier way to have challenging conversations. AEO:  Acknowledge, Explain and Offer. First ask for a container to have the conversation.

Non-monogamy has existed longer than monogamy.

Non-monogamy is just as much of a valid way of being in relationship as monogamy is.

Some people choose their relationship design. Other people experience it more as an orientation. And some could go in either direction. Most people have probably not asked themselves that question.

Polyamory is one form of non-monogamy. It means many loves. Love is infinite.
 

For some people it’s all about sex and for others it’s not.
 

In non-monogamy because nothing is assumed based on societal standards, the amount of conversations that are had around what relationship agreements are in place…there is so much talking and so many conscious agreements that are made.

Our society has so much shame around any kind of pleasure. It’s seen as selfish and that is not accurate.

Jealousy is not an exclusive emotion to relationships or to non-monogamy.

 Release your ‘shoulds.’ The “I should do this,” “I’m supposed to do that.”
 

Nobody is perfect. Striving for perfection is dumb!
 

Live a life that’s honest to you, no matter the cost. It’s harder to live a lie.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

If you gleaned anything from this conversation, my hope is that it is to live your life in a way that is most honest to you.

Deciding to do what is right for you doesn’t mean it will be easy. It may hurt others. It may be super tough at times. But, it can end up hurting others and yourself more if you don’t.

As Rachel said, it is harder to live a lie. Release your ‘shoulds’ and also remember to live passionately, live vulnerably, and keep loving later life.

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Moments of Connection That Are Impossible to Forget

Moments of Connection Are Crucial to Our Well-Being


Ideas for these episodes come from a variety of sources and at different times of the day and night. This one came flowing out of me from my personal experience, from a movie I love, and some hard facts. And I share all of it.

The moments in our lives when we meet, connect and share with someone create meaningful relationships that are not only etched in our hearts and minds, they also have a profound effect on our quality of life.

Based on research, the connection we feel for certain people and the relationships we have are crucial to our physical and psychological well-being.

After you listen, I believe you will be motivated to make time to create more meaningful relationships and spend more time (IRL) with those whom you feel safe, seen and supported.

I hope you’ll join me.


Not be missed take-ways:

  1. Before we develop relationships with others we feel a connection, and before we can have a healthy connection with someone else, the first and most important connection that will drive this train is the connection we have or don’t have with ourselves.

  2. Connections can be just as important to physical and mental health as exercise and healthy eating.

  3. Instant connections with people can make you feel happy, understood, and supported, and can lead to the development of lasting relationships. Social connections can also have psychological and physical health benefits.

  4. In the 86 year-long Harvard Study of Adult Development, people who lived longest, stay the healthiest, and are the happiest, were people who have more relationships with other people and warmer relationships with other people.

  5. Loneliness has been linked to an increase in heart attacks, stroke, (similar to that of light smoking or obesity), weaker immune systems and high blood pressure.

  6. More time spent on social media was associated with higher levels of loneliness, in particular for people who used social media as a means for maintaining relationships.

  7. Life is short, and when you do find those special people, as good ‘ol Ben Franklin said, don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. None of us is guaranteed tomorrow.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Enjoy the people with whom you feel safe, seen and supported. Don’t just connect virtually. There is no substitute for seeing them in real life.


Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Allie Hill: Author, Speaker, Coach Navigating Empty Nesting (and…

Allie Hill: Author, Speaker, Coach
Navigating Empty Nesting
(and Basically Any Life Changes!)

Today my guest is Allie Hill. Allie has been featured on national television, she’s a Certified Life Coach and speaker, and used her 15+ years’ experience as a journalist to author the book, The Girlfriend’s Guide to Empty Nesting.

At first when Allie first reached out to me, I thought that maybe the subject of navigating the changes in life when becoming an empty nester may not be applicable to you all. And I’m here to tell you that I was wrong!

I recently had a month filled with lots of people from my life coming to celebrate my mom and her artistic partner’s accomplishment of having their musical produced. There was so much love, support, and so many delicious hugs and conversations. And then it ended, and my ‘nest’ felt empty.

We all deal with so many changes in life. The emotions we feel and the skills needed to go through such changes are all very similar.

So without further adieu, let’s get into it!

Not be missed take-ways:

  1. When things happen to us that appear to be difficult and challenging it can be the inception of something so beautiful for ourselves and to help other people.

  2. Sometimes the things we want to happen right away are not meant to happen right away.

  3. Find the pause, the magic in the rest between the notes.

  4. Feel your feelings. Allow them to come up without resisting them. You’re not going to get stuck there. Everything is temporary, even the best of times.

  5. If you can have a little humor, curiosity and grace for yourself that will help navigate the tough times.

  6. Be open. You never know what’s going to come next. Pay attention to what sparks your interest. The world is your oyster. Be willing to try new things.

  7. Pay attention to what is calling you and how people and something makes you feel and follow it without any expectations.

  8. Having boundaries is super important. Have a conversation with your partner, your kids, or really anyone about what you need. They’re not mindreaders.

  9. We don’t see that what we’ve done before and do every day is a talent/skill because it’s what comes naturally to us. That’s where the gold is.

  10. Extend the same grace to yourself that you would to others.

  11. We learn when we ‘fail.’ Bring on the failures!

  12. This too shall pass.

  13. Focus on what’s working vs what’s not working. And focus on what you are grateful for at night.

  14. Look for the fun, for the joy. Even in the hard times you can find the flower that’s pushed up through the cracks in the sidewalk.

You can reach Allie at her website: alliehillcoaching.com

Or on Instagram and Facebook: AllieHillCoaching

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

If you’re going through a life change, whether it’s being an empty nester or something else, feel the feels, journal those feelings and what you’re grateful for, and then pause. Pause to allow creativity to play and show you the way to your next step. Trust this process. If you think a coach could help, Allie and I are both accepting new clients.


Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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After an Emotional Month I Wonder: Is Life About…

After an Emotional Month I Wonder:
Is Life About the Big Moments or
The Moments In Between?

The past month has been one of a lot of feelings and experiences from one end of the spectrum to the other, some anticipated some not.

From the saddest moments to the most exciting. From feeling disconnected, irrelevant and sad to the point of my face breaking out (which nevvver happens) to feeling embraced by the most loving hugs; both literally and metaphorically.

It seems like it’s the big moments in life that attract most of our attention and anticipation. They are the times that embed themselves as memories in our mental film library.

There’s no question that our huge accomplishments are huge and important. AND, so are the moments in between that fill our hearts and life experience.

This got me thinking more about moments in between (the good ones of course)…an exercise I highly recommend doing.

Remembering past good in between moments also reminds you that you had them, even when perhaps there were other not such good things happening at the same time. And that can be true again.

Many of us are afraid that in later life there are to be fewer of these moments. And I say, if you believe that to be true, it will be. What do you choose to believe?

I hope you’ll join me to also hear which moments in between of mine came to mind.

Not be missed take-ways:

  1. If you want to see someone, or talk to someone, call them. Don’t wait for them to call you.

  2. If you want to see the ocean, the mountains, a sunset, a sunrise, do it.

  3. If you want more moments in between, notice them, create them, find them; they are waiting for you.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Pay attention to the moments in between and remember them…and keep creating new ones.


Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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My Conversation with Terrah Bennett Smith;


My Conversation with Terrah Bennett Smith:

Her Desires & Drive Overrode Her Circumstances & Fears

Today I have a very special guest, Terrah Bennett Smith who I heard on another podcast and knew immediately I had to try to have her on Loving Later Life. She is so dynamic, and wise and captivating…and I can’t wait for you to hear our conversation. We bonded immediately and had so much fun. Her desires and her drive overrode her circumstances and her fears, and after listening you will be energized and motivated!

Terrah, a Native New Yorker, has enjoyed a rich and multifaceted career in the entertainment industry, as an award-winning director and actress, as well as a producer, writer, and executive. A few of her behind-thecamera credits include: her directorial debut with the feature film FLIP THE SCRIPT, and has gone on to direct the feature film, THE NEXT GIRL, the pilot SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS, and is currently producing a new series, CANDY RAIN, and the feature film; BROKEN. She is also Executive Producer/Co-Writer and Star of, THE WRIGHT TURN, an 8-episode TV series.

In front of the camera, a few of her TV Recurring/ Guest Star credits include STUCK WITH YOU, DEAR WHITE PEOPLE, BOSCH, GAMES PEOPLE PLAY, 9-1-1 and more. Terrah has also performed on Broadway and was a Billboard top 40’s recording artist on RCA records. Terrah served as Executive Director for the C&C TEEN HOLLYWOOD FILM FESTIVAL, worked with HOLLYWOOD BLACK FILM FESTIVAL in their media department, and is currently CCO for INYANI CORP, a global media production company and CEO/Founder of Reclaim Haven a wellness platform for women.

Join us!

Not be missed take-ways:

1.   We’re all given a blueprint designed by our families/ancestors that we live with and carry with us and it’s hard to let go of old patterns and to de-program the old blueprint.
 
2.   Follow your intuition, your inner knowing as to what is right for you.
 
3.   When you have a relationship with a process it’s hard to let go of that which is familiar. There’s comfort in the discomfort.
 
4.   You can’t have one foot in the old and one in the new. Lean in to the new.
 
5.   Be a bigger, badder, bolder, better you.
 
 
6.   We can write/rewrite the script of the lives and cast the people we want to have a part in our lives.
 
7.   When you want to know the truth, look at your life. It’s a reflection of what you believe.
 
8.   Don’t play small.
 
9.   Do what you love. Do what moves you, do what excites you. Even when you can’t figure out how, just take one step toward it. How means Help’s On the Way. When you do that one step, magically help is on the way.


And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

I challenge you to choose one area in your life where you feel you’re playing small, and take one step at a time to feeling more authentically you. And if not sure what I mean by playing small, email me, or DM me!

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Two Women in their 80’s Have a Dream Come…

Two Women in their 80’s Have a Dream Come True
40 Years Later:
Their Original Musical About the Great French Actress Sarah Bernhardt is Being Produced!

Hello and welcome back to the 68th episode of Loving Later Life, and I have to say that you are in for such a very special treat. You’re about to hear a story proving the fact that it is never, ever too late to see your dreams come true.

This is a story of two incredible women in their 80’s…one of whom is my mother. It is a story of friendship, of courage, tenacity, resilience, love, and passion. It is a story that comes full circle spotlighting relationships, perseverance, and timing.

I am so excited to say that due to a change in their schedule while my mom was in town for a presentation they were doing about Sarah at Dominican University, I was able to grab them for 30 minutes for an impromptu recording at a small park sitting at a picnic table.

You all met my mom Elaine Lang Ockner in episode 35 of LLL and if you haven’t listened to it yet, you must check it out after you listen to this episode.

She is is a pianist/composer, and Musical Director. She has composed the music for many musical stage productions and created original music for Bravo’s TV documentaries on the lives of Sarah Brightman, Jackie Chan and Nathan Lane. She was also pianist and Musical Director for Princess Cruises, Royal Viking, and Sitmar Cruise Lines.

My mom met June Richards in 1979. June is a professional actress, theatre director and emeritus professor. June created theatre programs for Dominican University, Contra Costa College, and served as Chair of Visual and Performing Arts at San Diego City College, and has directed more than 100 productions.

Since they met, they’ve been dear friends and artistic partners. Over the years their collaboration created many theatrical projects and wacky adventures behind the scenes.

As single mothers they persisted even as they experienced heartache and sadness with relationships and loss of loved ones; choosing not to be taken down but instead to focus on their creative passion.

One constant thread in the quilt of their creations was a musical they wrote in the 1980’s of the story of Sarah Bernhardt, the renowned French actress who also defied the odds and never gave up.

Fast forward 40+ years later to right now, their musical “The Divine Sarah” has been selected out of over 40 submissions of new works by the Ross Valley Players in Marin County, California to be produced this month, March 2024.

Ironically, 100 years after Sarah’s death, Paris recently had a Sarah Bernhardt exhibition. Vogue magazine had a spread, and Barbra Streisand is a super fan, talking about Sarah in her new book. (And if you’re listening Ms. Barbra, there is a ticket waiting for you at the theatre!)

Loving Later Life listeners, if you want to be moved and inspired, you must listen to these women tell their story. Annnd, be sure to listen all the way through because I got special permission to share with you a one-minute sneak preview of one of the songs played by my mom, the composer, Elaine Lang Ockner.

So now, picture if you will, I’m sitting at a picnic table with these two beautiful and talented women in the warm sun, birds chirping, (the occasional car driving by), and my phone resting on the table to record their incredible story….

Not be missed take-ways:

  1. It’s not too late to pursue your dreams, whether you’re 60, 70, or 80+!

  2. Trust how things work out. Sometimes it’s just not the right time.

  3. Ask for and accept support from others.

  4. Exciting things happen in later life when you are a willing participant!

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Come see the show if at all possible, and at the very least, go after your dreams! It’s not too late!

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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How My Son’s Surgery to Remove a Tumor Confirmed…

How My Son’s Surgery to Remove a Tumor Confirmed
We Can Learn From the Younger Generation


In this episode you will hear how my son’s mindset, humor and radical acceptance got him through not one but two potential life threatening events. I actually considered dropping the idea entirely of staying on schedule for this episode simply because I wasn’t able to have one prepared as my focus has not been on loving later life…literally.

However, I think that on some level I knew I would feel the need to debrief after this experience…even if it meant it wasn’t as perfect as I could make it. I think I also knew on some level that there would be some important take-away’s that I would want to share with you since we all at some point or another go through difficult times.

I deeply believe that sharing our stories and vulnerabilities opens the door for others to do the same. Please join me.

Not be missed take-ways:

  1. Ageism works both ways, and it is equally wrong.

  2. Though we often can’t control a situation we are facing, we can accept it and we CAN control how we look at it, and what we do with it.

  3. It takes pushing to make a tree strong enough to keep growing.

  4. It was not in spite of the adversity they survive, but it is because of it, that they thrive. We can turn adversity into something beautiful and wonderful.

  5. Sharing our stories and vulnerabilities opens the door for others to do the same.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Join me in working on accepting the things we cannot change with the mindset that we can do what we need to do when we need to do it. Acknowledge and fully embrace all the goodness that there is and make the very most of it. Love, allow love in, and search out those who lift you up and appreciate you for who you are.


Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Turning 64; Sharing My Thoughts & Intentions For You…

Turning 64; Sharing My Thoughts & Intentions For You to Consider

In this episode I share some of my very own, very personal thoughts I wrote on the day of my birthday at the end of January.

Why did I decide to share them? Because I believe that much of what we feel is shared by so many and that we can feel more connected and supported by sharing. And maybe even glean things from each other.

So, I’m going first. I hope you’ll listen and share so that more of us in later life can connect and learn and grow together!

Not be missed take-ways:

  1. Remind yourself of what you are grateful for.

  2. Be truthful to yourself. Staying present with yourself and trust yourself.

  3. Be more aware of what you’re focusing on.

  4. Pay attention to when you’re focusing on the darker side is key.

  5. Notice it and accept what you’re feeling in that moment. Fighting against it is a losing battle.

  6. Be present with what you are feeling.

  7. Running from the feelings by staying super busy or eating or drinking etc.will not help. And nothing will change.

  8. Take the time to be proud of you.

  9. Believe in yourself, encourage yourself, because nobody’s got to believe it but you!

  10. It’s just so damn important to be you. Do you. Because when you are, anything incredible is possible.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Think about writing down some intentions on how you can be more authentically you, without worrying about what anyone else may think of you!

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Alison Armstrong; Thought Leader, Speaker, Author: Understanding Men, Women…

Alison Armstrong, Expert in Human Behavior: Understanding Men, Women and Relationships

I am so excited for you to hear this episode, which is a full circle moment for me. Alison Armstrong is my guest. I took Alison’s series of workshops in 2006 for several years, and she changed how I looked at men and at relationships. Little did I know that one day I would have the honor of having her as my guest on my podcast almost 20 years later!

Alison is a true expert in human behavior. In 1991 she began to study men to find out how she was bringing out the worst in them. Her success in understanding men led her to studying women’s behavior and making vital connections between the two.

Bottom line dear Loving Later Life listeners: she will shock and surprise you with what she says about dating, sex, her own experience of losing her incredible husband in 2019, her current relationship, and how both men and women behave in ways that contradict and undermine our own purposes, goals, values, needs and relationships.

Not be missed take-ways:

  1. Alison teaches men and women how to understand and appreciate and partner with men and women.

  2. When on a date, lead with what’s true about yourself that isn’t likely to change and would be, what could scare someone off. Tell the truth.

  3. Most men find security in being productive which is why trust and respect are huge for them.

  4. Most women experience being safe by feeling connected. Interest and attention is a woman’s access to being connected.

  5. Men default to privacy. One question makes an interrogation for them.

  6. Women think men aren’t interested because they don’t ask questions, and that’s because many men think questions are rude.

  7. When deciding to meet someone new, if you express your needs ie: when you are able to meet them and they push back in any way: The End. Don’t go to meet them. It’s a sign they’ll keep doing what they think is the right thing to do without consideration of you expressing what you need.

  8. Many people only honor the needs and desires that make sense to them. True honoring is trying to see if you can meet the other person’s needs.

  9. If they think it’s controlling when you say what matters to you: The End.

  10. Tell someone what your deal breakers are before you meet them because that’s when you care the least about what they think about you. Be loyal to yourself.

  11. Expectations are like bunny rabbits. They breed more expectations.

  12. We have to create our own enough.

  13. In a relationship, do they honor what you need? Have you told them, and are you getting enough? And if you’re not, have you asked?

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Check out Alison’s workshops and all she has to offer at: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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