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The Magical Experience That Inspired Me to Spring Clean…

The Magical Experience That Inspired Me to Spring Clean Those Who No Longer Fit

This episode is very important for all of us. Please join me as I share the personal moments and revelations I had one night about the people in my life.  

I was at the surprise engagement party my son made for his partner. And that wasn’t the only surprise. I unexpectedly re-discovered how good it feels to be amongst people who are accepting, loving, genuine, supportive and kind. I felt a vibrational match with this group of amazing humans that I have not yet felt in this season of my life.

Just a few days later I was reminded that according to a study done by the Harvard Study of Adult Development, the single best decision you can make to improve your health and happiness is to cultivate warm relationships. These are the people who make you feel warm and fuzzy; and safe.

And then I heard a recording from Oprah where she said, “We are responsible for the energy that we allow to be brought into our space. You cannot move forward in your life to the level you want if you allow people in your space who are not supportive of you.”

This all could not have been timelier for me. I’m confident it will impact you as well. 

Not be missed take-ways:

1. You can’t get to the level in life that you want when you are with people who suck the energy from you. …Oprah

2. Whatever your energy level is, those are the people you will attract and feel a vibrational match with. It’s like a magnet.

3. A study that was done by the Harvard Study of Adult Development showed that good relationships make you happier and healthier, and that the single best decision you can make to improve your health and happiness is to cultivate warm relationships.

4. Also from that study, it is proven that warm connected relationships protect us from the stress in life.

5. The cold relationships, put you on edge and drain your energy. Research shows that spending time with these ‘cold’ people can make you feel lonelier and worsen your health.

6. You’ve got to love yourself enough to spring clean those who are no longer are a fit. Vibrate with pride at the level that you want to show up in your life, and you will find those warm relationships who will match with you and improve your health and happiness.

7. Let your light shine bright. It is your life to live. And it’s never too late to start!

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

1) I’m stealing this from Mel Robbins, just putting it in my words. Think of the people in your life and make a list. Those with both leading and supporting roles. Next to their name put Warm for those who make you feel safe, warm and fuzzy; or Cold for those that put you on edge and/or drain your energy.

2) If they have Cold next to their name, you know what to do if you want to move forward in your life to the level you want, and to healthier and happier.

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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My Colonoscopy Adventure and Some Important Information

My Colonoscopy Adventure
& Some Important Information

Welcome back to Loving Later Life this is Nancy Lang Gibbs your host and fellow Loving Later Lifer. Whether you’re in your car or lounging in a chair at a pool on vacation, taking a walk, on the couch relaxing…just don’t be eating for this one!

I recently had a very fun 48 hours thanks to being in later life. Let’s just say you cannot say I’m full of shit. How’s that for a hint? Yes, had a colonoscopy. And I decided that it would be so cool to take you along with me on the journey, so I recorded myself (you can relax, not during any of those moments) as I was going through the time before as to what I was doing and how I was feeling. And then afterward on the ride home…which to be honest, I have no recollection of what words came out of my mouth.

Before the entertainment portion of the episode, I remind you all of the importance of getting a colonoscopy and some updated information we should all know.

Warning: There will be some frequent puns that will roll your eyes! Join me!!

Not be missed take-ways:

1. Get a colonoscopy!

2. Eat your veggies and healthy fats.

3. Get moving. Yes, the E word, (exercise) and aim for 30 mins on most days of the week.

4. Watch your weight. According to the American Cancer Society, carrying extra pounds increases your risk of colon cancer, as well as cancers of the breast (in postmenopausal women), rectum, esophagus, pancreas and kidney, among others. Talk to your provider if you need help losing weight.

5. Limit alcohol and don’t smoke. If you choose to drink alcohol, do so moderately. That means no more than one drink a day for women or two drinks a day for men. And if you smoke, quit.

6. Follow screening guidelines. One of the most important cancer prevention strategies is to follow the colon cancer screening guidelines that are right for you based on your age, risk factors and family history.

7. Get a colonoscopy!

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

1) Get a colonoscopy! And let me know your experience! You listened to mine, I want to listen to yours!

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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How Can You be Truly Happy? The Answers Are…

How Can You be Truly Happy? The Answers Are Simple…

How can you be truly happy? Loving Later Life listeners: join me as I unpack the steps to what will make you happy (and they’re likely not what you’re expecting) according to Gay Hendricks NYT best-selling author.  

Gay Hendricks is the author of The Genius Zone which picks up from the work in his book, The Big Leap. Learn about what is holding us back and what we can do about it so that we can live a life we love. He explains that it is within all of us to get there. You are in the driver’s seat. It’s up to you. 

If you are serious about enjoying your life, don’t miss this episode.

Not be missed take-ways:

1. We all have fears, and those fears can only be loved away. Hendricks says to let them be, embrace them, let the energy serve you in some way.

2. If there’s something inside that you haven’t dealt with, it’s like driving through life with the break on.

3. The Upper Limit Problem not only prevents happiness, but it actually stops us from achieving our goals. It is the ultimate life roadblock.

4. Being in the Genius zone is doing what you most love to do. This is the biggest leap. It’s doing what you’re uniquely suited to do. What do you love to do?

5. The moment we open up and accept ourselves exactly the way we are; that is the front door to the universe.

6. Starting with 10 minutes a day, ask yourself what do I most love to do. Take 3 easy breaths. Then ask again.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

I think that taking things in small steps makes accomplishing something less overwhelming. So, for this mission, start by looking inward and be honest with yourself.

1) Write down what fears you have that are holding you back. What is keeping your foot on the break?

2) As you look at your list of fears, think about how you can love them, accept them, acknowledge them and let them be. This is the first hurdle to you living a fulfilling and happy life.

3) Try what he suggested. For 10 minutes a day ask yourself, what do I most love to do. Take 3 easy breaths. Then ask again.

If you have any thoughts on any of this, we’d all love to hear from you! Email me at nancy@nancylanggibbs.com with a voice memo or email.

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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Sometimes You Can Choose Your Hard

Sometimes You Can Choose Your Hard

Hard times and hard choices are hard for most of us to avoid. We must hear, see and feel things that are hard for us, and find a way to navigate through, as that is the way to the other side. Very often, we have no choice and then, there are times, we can choose our hard. Get divorced or stay together; live with the high cost of living, or move; stay friends with someone, or let them go; be vulnerable with others, or keep to ourselves. Come with me as I share some of my own personal hard choices, recognizing the ‘hards’ some of us don’t get to choose, and remembering that no matter what, we will always have the choice of how we look at and respond to a situation to make the best choice possible.

The Not to be Missed Take-Aways:

1. There are probably more hards than easies in life.

2. Life can be difficult AND we get to decide how we look at it, AND how we respond to it. All are true.

3. Some people don’t have the privilege of having the opportunity to choose their hard.

4. We should all be able to have a choice—except if the choice is selfish and irresponsible and hurts others, like choosing to drive drunk, or when we’re in a major health crisis when their choice can literally kill people.

5. Who we choose to spend our precious time with can be a hard choice, even when it’s the right one.

6. The good news is, sometimes we get to choose our hard.

7. All you can do is make the best choice you can at the time.

 

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The (Scary) Bad Date, Some Outrageous Comments, The Disappointing…

The (Scary) Bad Date, Some Outrageous Comments, The Disappointing Fix-Up, and a Couple of the Good Ones

Hello and welcome to Loving Later Life! I am Nancy Lang Gibbs your host, and this month I’m sharing some of my crazy ass dates and relationships. Last week was one of the more intense sagas, so this week, instead of the super soapy saga I was going to share, (I’ll save it for another time) I thought I’d share one that had some very funny moments before it became scary.

After that, I have some one-liners from dates and almost dates that were so awful and absurd I had to write them down. Then a quick story of one that was actually a fix-up that turned sour, and lastly, to close out the episode and the month on a more positive note, I share about a couple of the good guys, even though they didn’t work out.

And I want to say again, I’m sharing these because we all have stories and there are numerous benefits of sharing our stories for the storyteller and the listener.

In fact, I invite you to please record a voice memo, or write a story of yours and send it to me so I can share it. And if you’d like to be a guest on LLL, let me know so we can discuss that possibility.

Not be missed take-ways:

For these stories, the take-away’s I believe are similar. Trust yourself. That gut feeling, that whisper of a voice inside you. Trust it over others. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation, leave. If you are being treated badly whether it’s emotionally, verbally, or physically; get out. Just get out. You will figure it out from there. Things will work out, just get out.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Rinse and repeat the takeaways.

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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VIRTUAL LOVE…OR SO I THOUGHT (MY FIRST POST-DIVORCE DATING…

VIRTUAL LOVE…OR SO I THOUGHT
(MY FIRST POST-DIVORCE DATING DISASTER)

It’s time for me to share one of my dating/relationship stories. This story took place back somewhere around 2007ish…and I was a very different iteration of myself than I am now. When I look back and see what I accepted as acceptable behavior toward me, it makes me cringe.

So without further judgement of myself, it is time to tell you about my first relationship post-divorce, and one of the worst. I can almost guarantee you won’t be bored! Sit back, relax, and join me on this hell-of-a ride!

Not be missed take-way:

If you ever hear your inner voice talking to you, or feel a pain in your gut from someone’s words or behavior ….RUN, don’t walk in the other direction.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

If you enjoyed this episode and/or if you’ve been listening for a while and you’re enjoying and haven’t yet followed Loving Later Life, please go to where ever you get your podcasts and click ‘Follow’ so you’ll get it automatically every week. I would love to see you here every week, and again, please share it with others. Appreciate you so very much!

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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My Mom: Sharing Her Stories of Love, Adventures, Loss…

My Mom:
Sharing Her Stories of Love, Adventures, Loss and Moving Forward

Welcome to LLL this is Nancy Lang Gibbs your host, and I am very excited to get right to this episode. Why?

Because, my special guest is none other, than my Mom! AKA Elaine Lang Ockner.

So, you may be wondering how my mom falls under the category of this month’s theme of dating, relationships etc…

Let me tell you a little something about my mom, without any spoiler alerts….

My mom is 84 and telling it like it is, and how it was…to be a 19-year-old bride, then divorced and dating in a whole new world. She experienced things in her 40’s for the first time in her life, which she shares openly and honestly. She shares some highs (literally) and some lows. Through it all she is driven by her love for her family, her music, and her whimsical zest for life.

And now, I am so proud to introduce you to, my mom, Elaine Lang Ockner…

 

Not be missed take-ways:

The take-aways for this episode are more cumulative than bullet points. To sum it up, it comes down to knowing you can handle what life throws at you. Have gratitude and appreciate what you have. Remember that when things are tough, this too shall pass…until the next time that this too shall pass; and in between, have fun! Keep going, take time to think about things, and keep moving forward and enjoy new things in life. It’s never too late.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Read the take-aways again. And again. Now go try something new, go someplace new, eat something new, and you will open up your world. It’s not too late.

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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Andrea McGinty “America’s Premiere Dating Expert:” How to Date…

Andrea McGinty “America’s Premiere Dating Expert”… How to Date Safely and Successfully Online…and More!

Do you wonder if it’s possible to safely date and find a partner online? Andrea McGinty has been named America’s Premier Dating Expert and she shares her expertise about online dating and so much more! She has been a leader in dating since 1991 and that’s when she founded “It’s Just Lunch” which she grew to 110 locations worldwide. The catalyst? Being dumped by her fiancée weeks before her wedding! McGinty estimates she has set up over 33,000 dates, which have led to over 6,000 marriages!

With over 25 years of professional dating experience, Andrea founded 33000Dates.com so she could help singles navigate online dating.

She knows that in the 2020’s the best way to meet people is through online dating using a professional coach. Andrea specializes in singles who are in their 40’s-70’s. She takes the burden of guesswork out—and makes it fun. She’s a dating coach, cheerleader and entrepreneur who genuinely gets excited when her clients meet someone, and it turns into a long-term relationship or marriage.

Her stress-free, practical online dating advice/coaching is based on real-life experiences. She’s been featured on numerous media outlets including CNBC, CBS News, People, Forbes, and The Oprah Winfrey Show!

You can read more about Andrea and contact her at 33000dates.com

Not be missed take-ways:

1. The types of photos that are best to use on a dating site.

2. What makes a good dating profile.

3. Picking the right dating site is very important.

4. Seek out matches. Don’t wait for them to show up.

5. It’s best not to have more than 5 days from messaging to meeting.

6. If you have a phone call before meeting, do Facetime and keep it to 10 minutes.

7. Red flags to look for when doing online dating.

8. Other things you can do to meet someone.

9. If you think you want to do something or say something, just do it.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

1) If you are single, divorced or widowed, and you’re thinking about dating, consider online dating as an option.

2) If it scares or intimidates you, reach out to a coach such as Andrea for assistance.

3) Try a meet-up or join a club or volunteer somewhere where you are around people who enjoy similar activities.

4) Just do it!

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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Do You Betray Yourself by Not Having Boundary Lines?

Do You Betray Yourself by Not Having Boundary Lines?

Since the stores start displays for Valentine’s Day in December, I figure to start talking about dating and relationships two weeks before the big heart day is totally acceptable. In fact, here at Loving Later Life for the next month or so we’re going to wrap ourselves up in conversations about love, the search for love, and the stories of love—the good and the cringe worthy! (That part comes from my experiences!) I also have some very exciting guests lined up so don’t miss any episodes!

With Valentine’s Day approaching, it is a good time to remember to treat ourselves and honor our most important relationship: the one with ourselves! One way to do this, is to be sure we’re setting boundaries. Boundary lines are essential to our total health. We are so conditioned not to disappoint and let down those we love. It might also upset, or even anger some people. It can be scary to draw that line in the sand knowing the possible consequences. In truth however, letting ourselves down is the worst option. It’s betraying yourself.

I hope you’ll join me.

Not be missed take-ways:

1. One way to honor ourselves is to be sure we’re setting boundaries.

2. “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” Brene Brown

3. Boundary lines are essential to our total health. We are so conditioned not to disappoint and let down those we love. In truth however, letting ourselves down is the worst option. It’s betraying yourself.

4. “Beware of the people who make you think you’re holding a grudge when you’re really holding a boundary.” Mel Robbins

5. Some types of boundaries: Emotional, Time, Mental and Physical.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

1) Think about what areas in your life where you lack boundaries.

2) Pick one to start and decide what you can do to create a boundary line that is in alignment with what feels right for you.

3) Take action and do it.

4) Pick another area of opportunity and repeat step 2 & 3!

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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Are You Afraid to Feel Joy? Sometimes? Like Me?

Are You Afraid to Feel Joy? Sometimes? Like Me?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about Joy. Why? And why now? Well, my birthday is coming up this weekend. So what does the topic of Joy have to do with my birthday you may be wondering?

When you listen you will hear me share some very personal thoughts and feelings that explain why and how for the longest time, I thought there was something wrong with me; until I heard Brene Brown talk about this. It was the first time I felt understood and not to mention relieved. Did you know that Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we experience? Join me, and please share with others who you think need to hear this.

Not be missed take-ways:

1. Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we experience.

2. Foreboding joy can be a way of protecting ourselves from vulnerability.

3. We think that if we don’t worry, something bad will happen, or that if it does happen, we will be more prepared.” Brene Brown

4. The truth is, that you can’t practice tragedy and it doesn’t make us feel better. We’re not more prepared when something bad happens.

5. What we do end up doing, however, is squandering the joy that we need when hard things happen.”

6. “Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we experience, and if you cannot tolerate joy, what you do is you start dress rehearsing tragedy.”

7. Practice gratitude.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

1) The next time you are feeling joy and find yourself either trying to dress rehearse tragedy, or intentionally worry to better prepare yourself for when it does, practice gratitude.

2) I just want to say that I am focusing on how grateful I am to you for listening. For coming back again and again. I’m truly honored that you take time, your precious time to listen to what I’m putting my everything into to hopefully make some kind of difference. The support I receive and feel most consistently comes from the most unexpected places and people. I am grateful, thank you.

 

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

 

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Also: If you have a story you’d like to share for the podcast or have questions or comments for Nancy email nancy@lovinglaterlife.com

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