Sky Bergman in her 3rd Act: Becoming a Filmmaker…

Sky Bergman in her 3rd Act: Becoming a Filmmaker of Lives Well Lived, and Author of Lives Well Lived—Generations
After a 30 Year Teaching Career

We are so fortunate to have Sky Bergman as our special guest on Loving Later Life. She is Professor Emeritus of Photography and Video at Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo. Her artwork is in prestigious museum collections, and her commercial work has appeared in renowned magazines like the Smithsonian.

Now in her third act after a 30-year teaching career, Sky felt pulled by her dreams and passions in the direction of being behind the lens of a different kind, motivated and inspired by the love of her Grandma who was turning 100.

She wanted to find other people like her grandmother who could be her role models for aging. Sky spent 4 years interviewing 40 ppl with a collective life experience of 3000 years and created the film Lives Well Lived currently on PBS, Amazon, and iTunes to name a few. Her goal was to discover their secret, and she found that they had 3 things in common, which she shares with us, and more!

You will feel incredibly positive about aging after watching her film. It has been so popular that she then wrote the book Lives Well Lived — GENERATIONS. The first half is about her experiences making the film and the lessons she learned. The second half is about the amazing people around the globe who are doing work connecting generations.

Sky’s passion is creating films and projects that inspire intergenerational connections, emphasizing the power of shared stories. And after listening to our conversation, you will feel the power of her story and very different about aging.

You can watch the Lives Well Lived film and get the book on the following platforms:

AMAZON:


iTUNES

KANOPY

PBS Passport

Buy the DVD on Amazon

Lives Well Lived–Generations book

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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I’m Seeing Something, So I’m Saying Something…Regardless of the…

I’m Seeing Something, So I’m Saying Something…Regardless of the Consequences

Welcome back to Loving Later Life and if you are a returning Loving Later Lifer I so appreciate you. If you are new, thank you, welcome and this is a hell of a first episode to hear! And I’m hoping it won’t be your last.

I’m going out on a limb with this one while reminding myself of phrases like, ‘not everyone will like what you have to say, and that’s ok,’ or Hamilton’s, “If you stand for nothing, what will you fall for” or as Martin Luther King Jr. said, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter,” and yes, lastly the saying: “If you see something, say something.”

I have been silent, and I’m at the point now where I feel if I don’t say something, it will make me complicit in history repeating itself, and as MLK said, in watching our lives (as we know it) begin to end. I decided that I can’t let the fear of losing listeners or of upsetting anyone prevent me from sharing a perspective that I’ve been thinking about, and then heard it stated much more eloquently by a historian. So, I ask that you please hang in for thirteen minutes until the end, no matter if you agree or not.

Podcast I refer to in the episode: Unlocking Us with Brene Brown: Part 2 with Heather Cox Richardson

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Golden Dating Doctors: Dr. Gloria Horsley & Dr. Frank…

Golden Dating Doctors
Dr. Gloria Horsley & Dr. Frank Powers:

Silver Singles Spokespersons, Authors of “Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating”

Hi and welcome back to another episode of Loving Later Life! If you are new I am very glad you are here. If you are a regular, I so appreciate your continuing support of Loving Later Life. Quick reminder: if you can think of others who want to be loving later life in community, please share these episodes!

This episode is another first! This conversation is with a couple. In their 80’s. And, they’re not just any couple! They are nationally recognized relationship therapists Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers.

Gloria and Frank are currently serving as spokespersons for the dating app Silver Singles (they actually met online with this app). They were recently featured on NBC Tampa Bay’s Bloom TV, Yahoo! Life, Men’s Health, The Most Dramatic Podcast Ever with Chris Harrison and Whine Down with Jana Kramer, among others.

Dr. Gloria Horsley Ph.D. is a licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical nurse specialist. She is the president and co-founder of the Open to Hope Foundation and co-hosts the award-winning “Open to Hope” TV series and podcast.

Dr. Frank Powers, Ph.D., has been a licensed psychologist with a private practice in Scottsdale Arizona for the last 30 years. He served as the chairman of the Psychiatric Security Review Board for the State of Arizona and is a past psychology professor at Scottsdale Community College.

Gloria and Frank have written a book together called, OPEN TO LOVE: THE SECRETS OF SENIOR DATING. Writing a book together was the last thing they thought they’d be doing at this stage of their lives, but the magic that came with finding each other later in life compelled them to share their story. And they wanted to do their part in making things a little bit easier and more fun when tackling the world of dating.

You will not be able to listen to this episode without smiling the entire time. We had so much fun, and we also had fun navigating some internet issues including my power going out in the middle of our conversation!

Come join us in the fun!

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Proven Cutting-Edge Tools to Stop Emotional & Binge Eating

Proven Cutting-Edge Tools to

Stop Emotional & Binge Eating

This is a first for LLL because I have two incredible ladies joining me! We are talking about a topic that is all too common for many people: emotional and binge eating.

Ellen Shuman has worked in the eating disorders field for 30 years as a researcher, director of a Binge Eating Disorder Treatment Center, and as a past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association. Her favorite role of all however, has been as a “Binge Eating Coach.”

Ellen teaches emotional regulation tools to people who struggle with emotional and binge eating.

She is the founder of A Weigh Out (w-e-i-g-h) Life Coaching; Freedom from Emotional Eating, Food & Weight Obsession. Ellen provides individual telephone coaching services to people worldwide.

When it comes to helping people binge eating and compulsively overeating, she brings a unique depth of understanding, empathy, proven and cutting-edge tools to her clients having lived the struggle personally. She shows others once and for all, how to find their hope again.

Ellen was also a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show in 1992, on the show where Oprah spoke openly about her own struggles with emotional eating, for the first time ever.

Prior to her work in the Wellness Field, Ellen was a journalist. Her documentaries and news series on Binge Eating Disorder won Emmys and a Clarion Award.

Also joining us is a client of Ellen’s, Kathy Blackburn. Kathy shares vulnerably and beautifully her personal experience in overcoming her challenges with emotional eating.

After listening to this episode, you will have a greater understanding of this all-too-common issue, and if you deal with this, you will also feel understood and hopeful, because there is a way out.

If you wish to find out more about Ellen and/or reach out to her…

Her Website is: www.aweighout.com

If you’re interested in exploring what it would be like to work with Ellen, one to one as your coach, she offers a free consultation session. You can book that through www.aweighout.com by clicking the “Book a Consultation Session” button — or email or call her, ellen@aweighout.com, or 1-513-321-4242.

We hope you’ll listen and share to help others.

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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MY WEEKEND THAT LED ME TO THE SOBERING FACTS…

MY WEEKEND THAT LED ME TO THE SOBERING FACTS ABOUT FEELING ALONE AND DISCONNECTED…

AND A SOLUTION FOR US ALL!

Welcome back to what could be called Season 3 of Loving Later Life!

I already have some awe-inspiring women guests lined up who will amaze and enlighten you, so be sure to follow Loving Later Life so you don’t miss anything.

This first episode is very special to me because I share with you a real time decision I’ve made as a result of a challenging time.

My decision is also one based on sobering facts from indisputable resources. It is something that I need, and based on the data, it is something we need as a group.

I hope you’ll join me by listening to this episode, and on this journey moving forward.

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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(Emotionally) Speaking My Mind + Milestones + Announcements

(Emotionally) Speaking My Mind + Milestones + Announcements

This episode is me, emotional at times, speaking my mind, dropping a few tears, sharing milestones, announcements and concluding with a few more thoughts that I think I needed to hear so I just said them in my outdoor voice.

And who knows, maybe you need to hear them too.

Join me?

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Do We Feel Satisfaction From Getting What We Desire,…

Do We Feel Satisfaction From Getting What We Desire, Or in the Longing For it?
And Do We Lose the Longing As We Get Older?

This week’s episode was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend as we were planning something special to do together, and it led me to some questions…

Is it the longing for what we desire that gives us satisfaction, or in getting it?

Do we lose the art of longing as we get older? If so, do we miss it?

What do you do when your partner is no longer interested in longing to do things, and you are?

Should we hope that we don’t actually get what we desire so that we don’t lose that sense of longing?

I’m longing to share my thoughts with you on all of this and I hope you’ll join me and share with others if you think it would resonate.

Not be missed take-ways…

—There is a certain reward in the longing. We all need something to look forward to. Just the thought of something fun ahead can make you feel better.

—And when it finally does happen, it’s the icing on the cake that we finally get to eat and savor and devour! 

—We can’t just give up and give in! We need to keep trying new things, meeting new people, and taking risks. We need to continue to do things that challenge us, excite us, scare us, and take us outside of our comfort zones. 

—If someone is not capable of showing you love the way you need and want it, or willing to make an effort for you and the relationship…it’s not too late to put yourself first, even if it means making scary changes. You are not too old!!!!

—Dare to be greedy. Find as many things as you can to look forward to and make them happen.

—Someday, is not on the calendar.

—What are you waiting for?

And your mission that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

What is something you have said at least once, “Someday, I’m going to do that.” Or, “I wish I could _______, I’d really love to_______. Fill in those blanks and put whatever it is on the calendar!

Plan it. Revel in the longing for it to happen and enjoy every moment. Oh and please share with me so I can share what listeners are doing!!

And at the risk of sounding like a broken record: You’re not too old!



Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Do You Let Other People’s Expectations and Judgements Influence…

Do You Let Other People’s Expectations and Judgements Influence or Control Your Life?

How many of us lose a part of ourselves over time, either not realizing it, being in denial, or making the choice to allow it to happen because it was seemingly easier to go with the flow, or to appease a spouse or a parent or someone in our lives.

I went to see the Broadway touring show of Funny Girl recently, and so many feelings came to the surface, including the feeling of my younger self rumbling beneath. She was feeling a bit overlooked, and I also saw a part of myself in Fanny Brice; perhaps a part of me that has been ignored at times over the years. It was an emotional day.

Why are so many of us willing to give up our passions, our preferences, our dreams?? And why are we so afraid to ask for what we need and want?

In this episode I share a very personal story with you in hopes that if you can relate, perhaps it will help you take some kind of action on your path to finding peace in your heart, your mind and soul so that you can live life the way you wish to live it. No matter your age.

Not be missed take-ways…

—Whether it’s a spouse, partner, family member or friend; bottom line, if you can’t be who you authentically are, if you can’t express your wants, needs and desires with them for whatever reason, and feel safe in doing so, then that is too great a sacrifice. Full stop.

—Life is not a f*cking dress rehearsal. Daring to live a life we choose to live can be scary as f*ck. And you can do this.

—Remember that the #1 regret of the dying is not about what they did, but what they did not do.

—When you live on your path not worrying about external approval you begin attracting others in your life who welcome and want you to be you, and love you because of who you are, not despite who you are. People will appear out of nowhere who will listen, respect, admire and appreciate all that is you.

—Your desires matter. Don’t live the rest of your life settling because it’s comfortable. No matter what damn age you are, it’s never too late to live a fulfilling life asking for what you want..and getting it.

—Don’t we all deserve that? My wish for all who need to hear this, is to have the courage to live a life you dream of living. Even, and especially in later life. Life is short and getting shorter. Set the example for your kids and grandkids that it’s not only ok, but necessary to be true to yourself.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

It’s time to be honest with yourself. Are you in a situation of any kind where you’re miserable? Or let’s say you’re not miserable but just ‘comfortable’ in the mundane, tolerating mediocrity, a lack of passion, or missing what used to light you up?

If this hits home at all, ask yourself what you wish were different. If you mean it, most often to make a real change…not just a using bandaid for a temporary fix…we need support from either a counselor, coach or therapist. You are a priority. Ask for what you need. You’ve got this.

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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My Daughter Rachel Wright, A Non-Monogamous Polyamorous Psychotherapist: How…

My Daughter Rachel Wright

A Non-Monogamous, Polyamorous

Psychotherapist:


 How to Have Tough Conversations,

Societal ‘Norms’ and Non-Monogamy

Hello Loving Later Life Listeners! For those of you just joining for the first time, you are welcomed with open arms, and I hope you decide to visit on the regular, which is every other Monday!

Before I read you the bio of my most, most, most special guest, I have to tell you that this is the fastest hour you may ever experience. It is good till the last drop so you must hear every last word. And I’m not saying that because my more than special guest is my daughter!

In our conversation we talk about her 3-step creation to having challenging conversations and we role play one about wanting more sex in a relationship. You will learn about her non-monogamous/polyamorous life; what its like, and its challenges. We discuss shame, jealousy, societal ‘shoulds,’ affairs, and a tonnnn more juicy and important topics! Now for her bio:

Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT (she/her) is a distinguished psychotherapist and renowned speaker with expertise in modern relationships, mental health, and sex.

With a Master’s Degree in clinical psychology, Rachel has worked with thousands of clients worldwide, has a podcast, The Wright Conversations – about Sex, Relationships, & Mental Health with over 100K downloads. She has been featured in numerous media outlets, including The New York Times, PIX 11 (NYC), Women’s Health (online and print), Cosmopolitan (online and print), and NBC News Radio, among others.

And as she says in her bio, when she’s not working, you can probably find her in her pajamas, eating gluten-free food and belting out show tunes.

This episode will truly get you thinking.

Press play now, and let’s get started!

Not be missed take-ways:

I could have written a book on the amount of take-aways from our conversation. Here are 12 of them!

3 steps to an easier way to have challenging conversations. AEO:  Acknowledge, Explain and Offer. First ask for a container to have the conversation.

Non-monogamy has existed longer than monogamy.

Non-monogamy is just as much of a valid way of being in relationship as monogamy is.

Some people choose their relationship design. Other people experience it more as an orientation. And some could go in either direction. Most people have probably not asked themselves that question.

Polyamory is one form of non-monogamy. It means many loves. Love is infinite.
 

For some people it’s all about sex and for others it’s not.
 

In non-monogamy because nothing is assumed based on societal standards, the amount of conversations that are had around what relationship agreements are in place…there is so much talking and so many conscious agreements that are made.

Our society has so much shame around any kind of pleasure. It’s seen as selfish and that is not accurate.

Jealousy is not an exclusive emotion to relationships or to non-monogamy.

 Release your ‘shoulds.’ The “I should do this,” “I’m supposed to do that.”
 

Nobody is perfect. Striving for perfection is dumb!
 

Live a life that’s honest to you, no matter the cost. It’s harder to live a lie.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

If you gleaned anything from this conversation, my hope is that it is to live your life in a way that is most honest to you.

Deciding to do what is right for you doesn’t mean it will be easy. It may hurt others. It may be super tough at times. But, it can end up hurting others and yourself more if you don’t.

As Rachel said, it is harder to live a lie. Release your ‘shoulds’ and also remember to live passionately, live vulnerably, and keep loving later life.

Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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Moments of Connection That Are Impossible to Forget

Moments of Connection Are Crucial to Our Well-Being


Ideas for these episodes come from a variety of sources and at different times of the day and night. This one came flowing out of me from my personal experience, from a movie I love, and some hard facts. And I share all of it.

The moments in our lives when we meet, connect and share with someone create meaningful relationships that are not only etched in our hearts and minds, they also have a profound effect on our quality of life.

Based on research, the connection we feel for certain people and the relationships we have are crucial to our physical and psychological well-being.

After you listen, I believe you will be motivated to make time to create more meaningful relationships and spend more time (IRL) with those whom you feel safe, seen and supported.

I hope you’ll join me.


Not be missed take-ways:

  1. Before we develop relationships with others we feel a connection, and before we can have a healthy connection with someone else, the first and most important connection that will drive this train is the connection we have or don’t have with ourselves.

  2. Connections can be just as important to physical and mental health as exercise and healthy eating.

  3. Instant connections with people can make you feel happy, understood, and supported, and can lead to the development of lasting relationships. Social connections can also have psychological and physical health benefits.

  4. In the 86 year-long Harvard Study of Adult Development, people who lived longest, stay the healthiest, and are the happiest, were people who have more relationships with other people and warmer relationships with other people.

  5. Loneliness has been linked to an increase in heart attacks, stroke, (similar to that of light smoking or obesity), weaker immune systems and high blood pressure.

  6. More time spent on social media was associated with higher levels of loneliness, in particular for people who used social media as a means for maintaining relationships.

  7. Life is short, and when you do find those special people, as good ‘ol Ben Franklin said, don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. None of us is guaranteed tomorrow.

And your mission, that I hope you’ll choose to accept…

Enjoy the people with whom you feel safe, seen and supported. Don’t just connect virtually. There is no substitute for seeing them in real life.


Thank you so much for listening! And until the next time, live passionately, vulnerably, and keep loving later life!

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